Groupie crisis! Help!

[Chastity]

Lieven, don't mention any names because you know who I'm talking about.

I'm friends with this band and every time they're in town we party hard with them. The last time they were in town, my two girl friends simultaneously fooled around with one of the members. I didn't join in on their antics because I have a boyfriend,I'm not attracted to that member and I'm just not into the whole groupie scene despite my nympho ways.

I like hanging out with bands but I try to keep it as platonic as possible (unless the guy was achingly gorgeous...wow I sound shallow hahaha)

I stupidly witnessed the threesome that my friends were having with this band guy. I should've left but then again I was drunk and had no clue where to go, etc etc. Anyways, when we walked one of my friends to the coffee shop, the band guy goes "so Chastity, if you're having problems with your boyfriend or if you guys break up, let me know." I stupidly responded "For sure!" NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO. Why had I said that? That was the moment where alcohol decided to not be my friend and backstab me.

Fred and I are going through this really odd phase in our relationship. I don't know what the hell is going on. The band is coming to town soon. If Fred and I are broken up by then, I don't know how to tell the band dude "I'm not attracted to you." I just don't have the guts to tell him. He asked me in a recent email if I was still with my boyfriend. Thankfully I am, hopefully I will be when the band comes to town.

This is such a stupid question but should I just pretend that I have a boyfriend (if I'm single) every time the band comes? He's dying to pounce me once I'm single. How do I get out of this mess?!

[karro]

Forget his big band ego. Just tell him the truth. You have a headache or you got your periods and so on...mwhahahahhahaha

[Acetroubleshooter]

yeah just tell him the truth, he might be a bit disappointed but it's better than fool around with him and not have any feelings for him

[Chastity]

Of course I'm not going to fool around with him. I don't fool around with people if I'm not attracted to them. It's just...I have no courage to say "listen, I was drunk when I told you that I would inform you about my status."

[Acetroubleshooter]

then just tell him when you're single but say you arent ready to fool around yet...

[fUx0r]

well, you were drunk. i've said shit when i was drunk that i'd never say had i not been inebriated. just tell him alcohol loosens your toung and you start talking out of your ass if that doesn't work, six little words:

" i'm not gay, but i'll learn."

gotta love simpsons advice.

[karro]

Its strange when alcohol comes in my purpose I got the double of embarassment I have being sober. I become more shy and I stop to talk the most of the time. I cant go talk to a guy when Im sober so imagine when im drunk But I got better sex when Im drunk. Guys need to step to me first tho.....haha eh but I'm still selective drunk dont worry cause of my life I never got blank. I can remember everything I said and do and its like that even when Im so drunk that I cant stop to puke my stomach out and that I cant move my body.

[fUx0r]

i'm a loud drunk only because everyone around me is too. i also love debating, because i've lost all inhabitions.

[Chastity]

fUx0r said:

" i'm not gay, but i'll learn."

I don't remember that quote (then again there are a lot of things I'm not remembering these days well, except for the negative stuff). But that is funny!

I was talking to one of the girl friends who had fooled around with the band dude and asked her what I should do. "Pretend you have a boyfriend." If I do that, I realize that can backfire. So, right when I realized that, a whole new plan formed in my head.

"Yeah but what if he starts seeing me talking to random guys or even worse, making out with random guys? He would wonder why I am cheating on my boyfriend with all these guys and why he wasn't one of the selected few."

"Oh I don't know then."

"Wait, I got it! I would just tell him 'I'm dating all those guys. teehehehehe Shhh, just don't tell them!'

If that backfires, I'll have to say that I just don't believe in fooling around with people I'm not dating (oh, the lies! This is about as true as saying that Ron Jeremy is an actor who appears in Disney movies) It's so bad I don't have the courage.

[Chastity]

For those who care for an update, here it is:

I ended up telling him the truth but drowned it in compliments. Thankfully, he was cool with everything (gotta love musicians who don't care!) I can now breathe easy. Thank God.

[fUx0r]

you see? everything worked out in the end, thanks to my advice. (yeah right. haha)

[Chastity]

Wanna know the irony? The day I wrote back to the band dude telling him that I was too loyal to my boyfriend...is the same day my boyfriend cheated on me. Lovely, isn't it?

[kaffia]

well then kick your boyfriends ass (or better, kick him in the nuts!!!!!)!!! if he cheats on u then he is a fucking ass! i hope u break up with him soon even if it could be hard..
just remember that u are a beautiful person in every way and that you will always have us here to support u!
stay strong chas!
*hug*

[fUx0r]

wow, kaffia's reply was slowly turning into a christina aguilera song. haha. j/k, man. but yeah, you're worth more than that, so just go over to his house and kick him square in the nuts. it'll leave a nice and long-lasting impression on him.

[Chastity]

Actually, we broke up on Christmas day/the day after. Don't worry I don't put up with cheaters at all.

I didn't kick him in the nuts (I did that to my other ex who cheated on me by having sex with two girls behind my back) but I slapped Fred across the face 3 times in a row and I actually counted it because 3 is my lucky number.

The joys of being a bitch.