Nearly banned!

[Chastity]

Tom (the guy who came up with Myspace) wrote me a message saying I had to delete some stuff from my group and that I had to remove the nudity (I don't remember the nudity) and sexual content because the advertisers would refuse to advertise for him. I love MySpace so I don't want to fight against Tom. I deleted some stuff. I wrote back to him apologizing and laughing and he replied "Rock on!"

Wow. So this is what the baby steps of going against the norm are like...(of course I had to cave or else MySpace would be gone or would ban me for good or would charge us)

[karro]

hhahhahahahhahahah

Horny = Chastity

You wear your name as well honey

[Chastity]

In my group, my friends were making joking statements that we should have an anti suburban orgy and one of my guy friends kept posting in my group's forum saying that he was horny and that he needed some.

In my profile, there's a picture of my legs and another picture of my (lack of) cleavage in a lacy bra with my middle finger in front of it with the caption that read "Stop staring at my tits" and the advertisers were obviously offended.

There are porn stars and aspiring porn stars on MySpace who put up far more provocative content than mine!

Karro, there's nothing wrong with being a sex positive individual.

Besides, our views on sex are way too conservative.

[Chastity]

Oh and another thing, my main picture was of my face. I didn't make it so obvious that I had so called "mature content" in my profile.

I think they caught me because a girl posted up a bulletin about undervcover cops on MySpace which I decided to forward and add to my own bulletin board.

I honestly think it's hilarious that the advertisers and everyone involved with MySpace were freaking out.

[karro]

Chastity said:

Karro, there's nothing wrong with being a sex positive individual.

Besides, our views on sex are way too conservative.

Never said it was wrong Chast.

[Chastity]

Oh I know you didn't.

It's just in our society, sex and nudity are amazingly taboo. Especially towards women. Women suffer a lot of indignation for their liberal views on sex.

"Oh my gosh! A bare breast! A BARE BREAST! Get the black rectangles out--FAST!!!!"

"Ewww. She gave that guy a handjob. Oh man, that guy for sure won't take her home to meet his mom."

"She's a whore! She sleeps with guys on the first date!"

"Forty guys? Wow, you sure do get around."

Women are "always" the victims of sex. Even if they're the predecessor (sp?) she is viewed as "she's just trying to please him" or "she has low self esteem and no respect for herself." Whereas with a guy, he's never questioned on his self esteem. It's widely accepted for a guy to fuck around.

Okay, some girls do have low self esteem and abuse sex and use it to get guys to like them. But some girls don't care and just want the sex. All women are dateable and marriageable regardless of whether they're big fans of sex or not.

I had a 37 year old friend and I asked him why he would think one woman would make a perfect girlfriend while another would be considered a slut. He replied "well, it's just I don't like the idea of a woman sleeping around. You want a woman who knows how to properly care for a child." That raised an interesting question in my head: isn't it just as sexist to view a woman as just a baby making machine? One would argue that pornography encourages violence towards women--which is true. However, there must be a way, where women can still have that power and have that sexual freedom.

Anyways, back to the issue about girlfriend/wife material vs. one night stand material. Guys have this fantasy about having the virginal wife yet they go crazy for sexual libertines. It's frustrating for both genders. Those fantasies are ambiguous, confusing and frustrating. The guy will never be happy because his virginal wife isn't sexual enough and his one night stand isn't virginal enough to be wife material. It just isn't going to happen, guys. You're not going to find a woman who will fit those two descriptions to a T.

Where does that leave us, girls? Confused as hell. (I, for one can say I'm not confused because I already made my decision ) I wanted to fight against this double standard because women are being treated like garbage over it. And don't say "well she asked for it." That's like justifying a rape because of what a woman is wearing. We're not sexual libertines to please men. We're sexual libertines because we are at our happiest when we are like that.

Anyways, I had no idea my rant was so long. Basically, I wanted to say it's about time we fight for sexual freedom and find another way to fight mysogyny and sexism (are those two even the same thing? I'm not too sure...)

[karro]

I get your point. When I was young I was fighting against such things. In my hometown which is not that big, rumors was going on all the time, especially about girls. I got mine, My friend hugged me in a party and after all rumors were about we kissed and such. Man, he had a gf at time and she was there! After there were a rumor about I gave the best blowjobs over the city. Not that I want to boast myself here cause I felt really embarassed with it cause it was about one guy and then its like I had done it to everyone. So I soon started to set my mind as your. Why guys are so stupid and why girls dont have the same right when sex comes in purposes? Why girls are all over jealous of each others when guys come friends in those situations? You hate the girl and think she is a slut while the guy is safe in the story. Why a girl gives the okej to a friend to go for her ex bf and after she is telling that she is a slut (which happened to my cousin)? Such stories happened to my best friend also. And after having been revolted and having decided to stay all my life without guys (where comes from my love for the quopte of Lowlife: "I'm alone and strong), I just come to that conclusion that the best to fight it is to not give it energy cause that gave me nothing. So be yourself and make mistakes cause they make you stronger, wiser and better after.

[Chastity]

I don't feel I'm wasting my time. I feel a lot more liberated being like this than trying to hide and say "No! I did not do that!" I don't know if I have had rumours spread about me (I'm sure I have had some!), actually my friend's loser ex boyfriend called me a whore behind my back. (He's not a loser for calling me that but he's a loser for being a pathetic drug addicted, unemployed, 24 year old high school dropout without a driver's license and who still lived at home with daddy.)

I had to laugh hysterically at his so called insult. I was just thinking "what is your definition of a whore? I mean if it's someone who sleeps around with a lot of people, then you should look at yourself Mr. I-had-unprotected-sex-with-over-60-girls-and-I'm-a-guaranteed-walking-STD."
The guy had chlamydia and I'm sure he had other STDs also. Plus he cheated on my friend with a 14 year old girl. PEDOPHILE. (That's another story)

Back to the subject. I think it's important though that women get respect. Not so much for the name calling (yes, we can deal with that) but we are still viewed as just objects. Sexual or as breeders. We are constantly judged over our level of interest towards sex.

We're not thought of as human beings who have feelings and desires and rights. We can get arrested for being topless in public. Also, have you noticed that when a woman gets naked, it's never a comedic thing? It's always some sort of sexual innuendo instead. Once again, we're being conservative about nudity. In some places, women aren't even allowed to breastfeed their child in public. What is this? Breastfeeding is a normal function. Why the hell should a woman be disrespected over that and get that right taken away from her and her child?

Um, don't mind me I messed up my rant. hahaha

[karro]

"We attrack what we are" The other is ever a mirror of what we need to understand to evolve. What I mean is start by yourself before to want other to change their mind. If you get disrespected its because you still need to work on respect of yourself. Its what I meant. The day I understood that, its strange but other change their view on myself and stop to judge me. I dont wait for others now before to be jovial and generous. And since that time, everywhere I go I recieve gifts or things. People inconscieously feel what you are and if you reconize and you respect yourself people inconsciously will feel it and stop to beg you.

[Chastity]

But I do respect myself. I have no problem standing my ground. I'm going to sound like a bitch but it's not my problem people are too close minded and lame to figure it out. When I appeared to be "respecting myself" on the outside, I wasn't happy on the inside. People never called called me a slut and a bitch when I so called respected myself.

I then realized "you know what? This isn't me. I can't live up to what society wants me to be. It's making me unhappy." Then out came my opinions and my real personality. A lot of people respected me because they knew I had a head on my shoulders. Some people called me a slut and a bitch because they couldn't understand my thinking and they stuck with their sheltered and familiar ideas.

Do you know what real respect for yourself is? Not having a care in the world of how people will perceive you and being happy and comfortable in your own skin.