Need older guys' opinions

[Chastity]

Warning: this is a tad graphic by North American standards.

My relationship is sort of on the rocks. Anyways, this past weekend I was hanging out with the bf and then he started to ask "how would you like it if you had 2 guys doing you at the same time?" I said it wouldn't be appropriate for a relationship--it's more appropriate when you're single. Then I asked him why he would suggest it to which he replied "to spice things up and to try something different".

I know our life in that department rocks (I love how I'm not being direct here ) He always tells me that it's the best.

Is his suggestion a really bad thing? I'm worried about his current views on our relationship. Tell me what you think.

[kaffia]

well i'm sorry but to me he sounds like a real ! he doesn't sound that serious to me and i think u deserve better! but i don't know him or how your relationship is otherwise so it's all up to u.
i hope it all works out for u!

[Car]

yeah Chas you have reasons to be worried about his current views on your relationship, what da fuck is that?

[Dany]

you've already got my point of view Chas. I think that you have to share love with your boyfriend if you think that he is THE one not hardcore. I don't know if you see what I means...

(We've have to talk more often about this subject in order to improve my vocabular )

[Karo]

Well, that could be a dream for many girls but like Kaffe told its not really serious. When you are really in love with the other for what he/she is really inside and knowing to appreciate what he/she gives you. Sexuality is a force and if you can get satisfied with the person you have a commitment with, its cause you didnt learn how to master it. Maybe the person you are with actually isnt at the same plan of conscience of yours. I mean he/she might not have the same knowing of his body and his/her faculties that you do. A sane sexuality gives you energy and makes you vibe. If you can never get satisfied its when those forces are dissipated. Then soon enough you start to get those kind of ideas to satisfy your desires..

[fUx0r]

well, chastity: do you really want to be in between two different guys? personally, i don't think it necessary to have such a strong dependency on sex in a relationship. i mean, it is an inevitable thing between two people who truly love each other, but it shouldn't be the focal point of the relation...

... besides, that's sick.

but again (as i've stated before) it's subjective. go with what you feel is right, chastity. and remember: your first impuls is usually the correct one.

[Chastity]

Thanks for the advice!

I'm no prude that's for sure. Hahaha. I get bored with vanilla sex (Car, Karro, Remi and Dany know my sexual side ) and I'm a very sex positive person--I'll basically do anything but of course, there's a limit. There are things that you do when you're single and there are things you should save for a relationship.

Threesomes sound cool and they must be a hell of a good time when you're single. However, I don't believe in adding another person to the bedroom just to make your sex life more scandalous because it's almost as if you're giving your significant other the permission to cheat on you right in front of you. Also these types of things are the fastest way to destroy a relationship.

Just to give a rundown on my relationship with my bf, we have an amazing relationship. He's the best boyfriend I have had. When we fight and such we talk it out and he's a very supportive guy. There's nothing destructive about it (well the only thing that was slightly destructive was the suggestion of tag teaming) Alex, you are so right about a relationship being based solely on sex. Thankfully, we're not constantly focused on that.

I'm taking all of your opinions into account because they make complete sense. Thanks so much guys and girl